Helping cope with grief from losing a loved one
Grieving is never easy. Death is one of the most painful and sobering experiences any of us will ever deal with. While we deal with many stressful situations in our lives, nothing can prepare you for the initial feeling of losing a parent. At first, you’re in denial. You call their phone with the hope that they will give you a routine greeting. You look at their photo and consider when you will see them next. Once we accept the fact that someone is truly gone, we must begin grieving.
As parents, it is exceptionally difficult to deal with the complexity of the grieving process. We spend so much time trying to love our children and people in our family that we can often forget how hard it can be to let someone go. We expect to grow old with all of our loved ones, but this is not always the case.
We may lose family members at all stages of life, from children to grandparents, and we even have to comprehend dealing with the loss of our own Mum and Dad. Understanding the differences between these losses is important in finding the most appropriate way to begin healing. As parents, we have to remain strong for all of the people we will impact in our lives, so it is important to do what you can to catapult yourself from becoming an emotional victim, as this has been known to lead to stress, violence, or substance abuse.
There are five distinct steps in the grieving process. The first is denial. You may feel like the loss did not happen and perhaps even manage to temporarily convince yourself. After realising reality, we enter the second step of anger. We get angry with our family and belief systems, questioning why we are having to deal with such a situation. In extreme cases, people enter a third stage known as bargaining. Like denial, people in the bargaining step promise to do certain things to reverse the loss of their loved one.
After you being understanding the loss of your loved one, the fourth stage of depression will set in. You may have little motivation to perform routine tasks, such as getting out of bed in the morning, and you will find little joy in your favourite activities. This step is one of the longest and most difficult, but it is the heart of the grieving process. After practicing healthy means of grieving, you will find yourself in the last step of the process—acceptance.
During the acceptance step, you will find peace with your situation and accept what has happened. While you may still encounter feelings of sadness, you will not find your life overwhelmed with grief. This step takes extensive time and work to reach, but it is essential for living your life with peace and happiness. Grieving is an extensive process, but it is important to understand it.
Further, if you spend all of your time considering your loss, you tend to forget those that are still in your life. Becoming a parent really puts into perspective how our family members are our greatest assets. Do not let opportunities to spend time with these people pass you by, as we never know how much time you have left with them.